Children’s Book Scavenger Hunt: Stop #10

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Children can be fascinating conversationalists, but sometimes adults need a little help asking questions that will get kids talking. That’s one reason why I included “Think and Talk” prompts in my newest children’s book, Stop-and-Go Devotional: 52 Devotions for Busy Families.

How to Ask Questions So Kids Want to Talk

Conversations with your child create heart-to-heart connection. You get to learn what your child feels and thinks and what she experiences away from you. Your child gains confidence and develops a deep sense of value when mom and dad want to hear what he has to say.

But we’ve all experienced the “How-was-your-day?” “Fine” syndrome, right?

Why doesn’t our child—or grandchild—want to tell us more? Here are three possible reasons and their potential solutions.

1. We might be asking the wrong kind of questions.

Questions that can be answered with just one word—yes and no, finenothing, or OK—usually end a conversation before it starts.

Instead, ask open-ended questions that invite children to share, to think, or to problem solve. Open-ended questions usually start with HowTell meWhatWhereWhen, or Why.

When you ask a child an open-ended question, he feels important to you and feels that his response is important to you. He thinks about the question to express his ideas.

In addition, young children need questions that are more specific than general. And give your child your full attention as you speak to him. Put down your phone, get close, look her in the eyes.

“Tell me about the game you played at recess today.”
“What was hard for you today?”
“What are some ways you could be a friend to someone who looks different from you?” (This is a question from the devotion “Inside Out” in Stop-and-Go Devotional.)

2. We might be asking questions at the wrong times.

Some children are super talkative after school or sports practice. Others need their space and a little quiet time before they’re ready to engage. Know your child, respect how he’s wired, and time your questions accordingly.

3. We might be asking questions about our interests, not our child’s.

It’s right to care about your child’s day at school or the sitter’s and how practices and lessons are going. But asking questions about other areas of life may help you know your child better as you discover new aspects of the remarkable person he is.

Reading books and watching TV shows or movies together offer many opportunities for open-ended questions:
“What do you think is about to happen?”
“Do you think there is another way to ______ ?”
“If you were _____ , what would you do?”

Pay attention to your child’s interests and problems and encourage her with questions:
“Tell me about your drawing.”
“What do you especially like about soccer this year?”
“What do you think might happen if you _____ ?”

Good conversations are like windows; they help us see and be seen.

It might take some time to learn to use open-ended questions, to time your questions, and to ask about what interests your child.

It might take some time for your child to get used to your new question-asking style and begin to engage with you.

Be patient. As you build respect for their thoughts and answers, children want to respond!

 Scavenger Hunt Clue to Write Down: —AA MILNE

Learn more about Stop-and-Go Devotional and how to order here.

LINK TO NEXT STOP IN THE HUNT: Head over to Lisa Tawn Bergren’s site to enter your clue stream on the grand prize Rafflecopter form!

– Diane

11 Responses to “Children’s Book Scavenger Hunt: Stop #10”

  1. Reply Sherri Myers

    Thanks for participating in the scavenger hunt, it was fun checking out all your author sites!

  2. Reply Jill

    We are using the I am book in our kids church program at church. I’m wondering if you have more coloring sheets than the 7 that show up when I click download. They’re amazing! Thanks so much.

  3. Reply Costumelooks

    Did you find a scavenger hunt idea you d like to try with your family? Once you start thinking about all of the things that you could turn into a scavenger hunt, it will be hard to stop!

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